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"If I Know Better, Why Am I Not Doing Better? Cracking the Autopilot Code" is a project born from deeply personal reasons, not the least of which is the title itself— one of my year-long mantras aiding me in self-discovery. It is also driven by reasons that have guided me over the past two-plus decades:...

How was Heaven?

With the new year fast approaching I thought it was a great time to do a little reflecting. Take a couple deep breaths, open your mind and your heart, and let's play the what if game. What if when you die, you stand in front of your maker and he asks,  “How was Heaven?” What...

The Reason for Relationships

I believe relationships are provided to us in order for us to grow. One of the great ways in which this takes place is in the way I get to treat them. It seems that I get the opportunity to treat them the way I wish I had been treated at some point. This doesn't...

An Untold Dream Fulfilled

I can recall, as a child, yearning for the love, affection, mentoring, coaching, and playfulness of having a father. I can recall yearning to run to my father for advice, only a father could give, and to ask only him. I can recall yearning to be carried on my father's shoulders as he ran around...

Was Steve Jobs Wrong?

Listening to Steve Jobs' iconic Commencement Speech at Stanford University, it gained widespread attention, mainly for one message: "Do what you love." Before co-founding Apple with Wozniak, Jobs had a deep affinity for spirituality and experimenting with psychedelics, embracing Eastern mysticism and Buddhism. His commitment to spirituality even led to his replacement in his first...

One Team One Mission

Collective Consciousness In my experience of this beautiful world, I've concluded that most people aspire to do good. I observe a shared desire for unity and collective growth. Unfortunately, on the flip side, I notice an increasing number of people fostering separation in the name of unity and community, which contradicts the intended goal. Many...

Who are you?

As time goes by, I'd like to say that I'm rid of my ego. Then I realize that's my ego talking as if I've achieved some higher ranks in life. Truth is I am no one on my own.If we're truly honest with ourselves, if we can set aside our ego, our dark wolf, we...

The Chase

We as the highest evolved animals in existence have mastered the "chase" throughout history. We've hunted. We've pursued pray, enemies, and food. We've  went after the next thing to help us and ours survive. And because we've evolved so much and we've been so successful at the above, we no longer have to chase those...

Progress

A very long time ago I made a commitment to myself to get better in every aspect of my life. The first step to manifesting that goal was to Do better every day, every week, every month and every year. Everyday since that faithful day many years ago was perfect. Not necessarily a good day...

Where did you find your Values?

Some of us talk a big talk  Some of us say family comes first but then don't act on it. I claim I've had a hard life. Yet, lots of it was fantastic. Growing up family had strong values. Like in every family there were good examples and bad ones. If we allow ourselves, we...

Commitments

How committed are you to being happy? Enough to make those you love happy? Enough to jump out of your comfort zone and take a chance with no guarantee of success? How committed are you to your commitments? Enough to make decisions that affect everyone around you? How personal is your purpose?  Enough to have...

Resilience

Often I've quoted a young girls version of what resilience means, a promise to yourself never to give up. I refuse to live with regrets. Can't do anything about the past but you can do something about your now and your future. I often meditate on that definition. Years ago I made myself this promise...

All Worthwhile Goals

What was the hardest personal goal you've set for yourself? Grateful that I've pushed myself to reach many hard goals. I'm glad the question is "set for yourself", rather than achieved. Because the hardest ones I've set for myself, I've failed at. Some I've achieved: 1000 miles ran in one year weighing over 250 Total...

Application into our Daily Life

With all the books we read, the documentaries we watch, the techniques we learn, the religions we practice, the application of it onto our daily life seems to escape us. What is knowledge without application but entertainment?  What good is quoting philosophers or scriptures without application but the ego showing off? What is a physical...

Drive & Resilience

What’s the trait you value most about yourself? Many years ago I decided to change my life and I did just that. I set up values and began to live by them. I once heard of a young girl defining resilience as a promise you make yourself never to give up. Many years ago, I...

What if we’re the Problem?

Sometimes we have elaborate excuses camouflaged as reasons for things going wrong. Maybe the project failed. Maybe your plan was ruined by unforeseen issues. Maybe finances haven't been realized as you planned. Or whatever. We are really good at pointing out where the fault came from. We have a keen eye for why things went...

Don’t Take Anything Personal

Many years ago I was recommended a little book by an extraordinary man. At that time, some twenty years ago or so, I needed that book and advice it gave deeply. I would say that very simple and little book helped me change my way of thinking for the rest of my life. The book...

How Should We Eat

Oh Nooo... not another diet! Nope. No new diet here. But an old lifestyle way of eating yes. A diet but not a diet. I've pretty much always known that eating whole foods is healthier than not. However, until recently I didn't realize how many nutrients we actually take in when we eat whole foods....

What you see vs How to see it

The more you execute, the more you fail at things.The more you execute, the more you achieve.The more selective you become with those you keep around you, the less friends you'll have.The more you keep away from cancers, the healthier you become.The heavier you lift and the more miles you run, the more sore you'll...

Feed our children a healthy diet or our childhood diet?

Don't you wish you knew some of the things you know now sooner in life? Would it make a difference? In my case yes, no, and maybe. Yes I wish I knew some things sooner for example that the food I eat can prevent diabetes, cancer, heart disease, obesity, and all kinds of unnecessary health...

Purpose in Life

Not everyone needs to understand your mission. Do you have a mission? Do you have a purpose for today? Do you have a goal today? Or are you just trying to skate by like today doesn't matter? I'm currently 46. Let's say I live until I'm 80 if I'm really lucky. That's 34 years left...

My Imperfect Life

Since the beginning of social media it seems folks only post the best highlights of their lives, they pick and choose the best poses, and they post their best meals. Social media and truth don't always go hand in hand. Being that these blogs are meant primarily for my children, I want them to know...

No More Zero Days

I heard someone talk about no zero days. I never heard that term but I got it immediately. A zero day is a day you do zero towards your goals, dreams, and wishes for your life. How are we okay wasting a day of our lives? Admittedly, I've had many zero days in my life....

Focus vs Distraction

I recall as a child using my imagination creating board games, creating highways in the dirt for my hot wheels and playing pretend which I believe all nourished my creativity and imagination. "Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.”Albert Einstein Growing up I remember tinkering with things such as...

God

As I sit at the beach meditating after a nice run, I begin to pray. Such a beautiful afternoon. I thank God for creating this beautiful ocean. Then I stop myself and wonder if God is indeed the ocean, along with everything else. It would be silly to thank him for his creation if he...

Promotions in the Workplace

I often speak to folks about their jobs, performance, wants, and dislikes. Many times I get lots of wants and a sense of entitlement from folks who are in no position of expecting the rewards they seek.  No man's knowledge here can go beyond his experience. John Locke I’ve learned that after I walk away...

The Non-Believing Believer

Disclaimer: If you are religious, stop here, close the window and move on. If you’re more spiritual than religious then maybe you can handle what I have to say. If you are religious and you chose to continue, please do not create conflict by trying to make me believe in your “truths”. I try to...

Faith, Belief, and Praying for Abundance

Admittedly, I don't pray nearly as much as I probably should. When I do, I usually focus on being grateful and thankful. The only things I usually ask for are for protection, grace, and mercy on my family, especially my three sons. Today at prayer service I pondered if it's ok to pray for abundance....

Father’s Day reflection

A day we are accustomed to celebrate fathers. For me it is a day to reflect on fatherhood. I reflect on my father and what his motivations, desires, and thoughts were as he raised us. I reflect on those who played the part of a father at one time or another in my life such...

Self Love

Self love, well that’s a loaded phrase. What does it mean? What does it entail? How does one practice it? What’s the best way to go about it? I know, lots of questions on this one.  This morning I woke up early and went about my morning routine. One of the practices I try to...

Anger and answered meditations

I admit, I've come a long way in my maturity through my journey. One of the proudest elements that I've evolved from has been my anger. I carried a scary rage for anger for a long time. Being expelled from multiple schools, and constantly getting in trouble over my anger as a youth was something...